- Background as a #metoo
- Foundation of knowledge shaped around disgust and loathing of sex and sexuality
- Religious patriarchs telling me my 14-year-old undeveloped body belonged to my future husband
- Years-long relationships with online predators plaguing me with cyber-rape,
- Years of reading rape-like smut to process all of this
3. It’s Art: Obviously, there are many horrendous examples of erotica that romanticize abuse and scenes that are far closer to rape than healthy, mutual love. But it takes a great amount of creativity and craft to write beautiful and romantic steamy scenes and sex scenes. Unlike a majority of pornography which is exploitative and violent and appeals to carnal appetites while reducing women to body parts, erotic content can illustrate the beauty of sex and sexuality. And most of all, love and connection. Below is a snippet of a bedroom scene between Isla, main character, and her girlfriend, from Bride of the Corpse King work on Kindle Vella.
4. It’s Empowering: For the first time in my life, I’ve been able to reclaim some truly dark personas of my inner psyche from my past. Thanks to writing romance with erotic scenes, I’ve been able to combat purity culture, virginity myths, homophobia, lies about sexuality, and even my own trauma. One of my greatest goals in writing Courting Destruction was to prove to myself I could write enemies-to-lovers without romanticizing abuse. FYI: Nailed it! And then: Nailed it AGAIN with Bride of the Corpse King! Challenging myself to write this trope via fantasy romance, I invite readers into the hearts and relationships of my characters. Whether through characters’ sexually-charged tension and kink-hinting banter, dark humor, erotic wooing, I seek to take my audience on an alluring journey of destruction and romance, trust and betrayal, darkness and intimacy, and above all…empowerment. Excerpt below from Episode 16: “Oh, the Games She Plays!”
5. It’s Relational: I recently wrote a blog post about Why Writing Is Different From Every Other Art. Though I reflected on how the relationship works between author and reader, I didn’t reflect on the depth of this relational experience. Perhaps it’s because my recent fantasy romance works are also #ownvoices. After all, there is a deep vulnerability in sharing my characters, in opening my heart to welcome the reader into the beauty of my vision. Despite how I believed I couldn’t top my first book with a queer feminist protagonist, when you frame sexuality in the realms of not just the physical but also the emotional and spiritual, not to mention the “sky’s the limit” for imagination regarding fantasy genre, I’ve discovered how the layers of intimate scenes and relationships continue to unfold like a fire blossom. And yes, my court of readers adore the love scenes and my husband and I quite enjoy sharing them together…in and out of the bedroom.
6. It’s Humanizing: Obviously, I mentioned above how dehumanizing my past of religious cult and the romanticized abuse smut impacted me. Both these along with pornography dehumanize females in different ways. Well-written erotic scenes such as I write seek to do the opposite. Reclaiming sex as beautiful and empowering seems like a fairy tale, not based in reality. Considering I have now written several erotic scenes into my newer fantasy romances, I understand this. It was a great challenge to write sex and bring it back to the physical and sexual as well. Of course, my favorite scene was from my unpublished work which involved characters who shared a similar trauma background and had complete trust in one another. Their coupling was both sexual and demisexual. Isla, in Bride of the Corpse King, is far more on the hypersexual side, but she still believes in deep connection and respect.
7. It’s Vulnerable: Now, I don’t mean to sound like a broken record. I’ve already explained how writing romance and sex scenes has been vulnerable for me. But how about vulnerable for the reader? Despite how my books are not simply romance but also dark fantasy, it still requires a willingness to perhaps step outside a comfort zone. Perhaps not, given how romance is the highest selling genre. It pushes boundaries and reveals our inner complexities, especially when you get into the territory of the soul such as I and combatting sexual violence and trauma. I don’t write to merely arouse. I write to provoke, to challenge, to ignite and not just your body but also your heart and soul and mind. And if my book even helps one person reclaim their trauma as it has done for me or takes them on a journey to embrace their sexual identity like it did for me, then it’s all worth it!.
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Transformation is at the heart of any author’s work. In my fantasy romance books, my protagonists transform from past trauma through deeply intimate scenes. Though the process of owning scars and trauma can take time, my characters are able to process their prior trauma and work toward reclamation and healing as I have. And this comes via not only sensuality and connection, emotionally and physically, with others but also by embracing healthy touch for themselves or growing stronger through transformation. Isla will never stop having deep intimate desires. She will never stop growing or leaning into pleasure and pain. As my hidden, unpublished main character (my first #ownvoices book) has trailblazed before her, Isla will test her boundaries and learn to trust. As a strong young woman, she owns her sexual confidence and allows herself to explore the depths of her psyche. And others, of course.
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Accomplishing this in my first unpublished work when the characters are forbidden by blood magic from kissing one another for 99% of the book was the ultimate challenge. Again: nailed it!
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More than ever, I am so hopeful for this new age of awakening. A new sunrise is on the horizon with agents and publishers desiring more queer characters in fantasy, more sex positivity, enthusiastic consent, and positive sexuality. So, I, myself, am truly enthusiastic for my work to reach the upper YA crossover audience because I do believe teenagers need these representations as well as healthy polyamory as I feature in Bride of the Corpse King. It’s time to leave the past of fall-for-your abuser tropes in YA fiction behind. It’s time to welcome a new era of queer protagonists smashing the patriarchy, overcoming trauma, empowering themselves and others, women supporting women, intersectional feminism, alpha males who are not threatened by women’s power, and sweet cinnamon roll boys who show their love and power.
Ultimately, I identify as bisexual, so while Isla is pansexual and loves everybody, I reject all bi-erasure. Perhaps this is one reason I opened Isla’s story as a Hades and Persephone retelling with the main romance as a love triangle between her and two men with her sweet girlfriend on the side (positive polyamory and asexuality as Franzy is gray ace). My unpublished protagonist also has a girlfriend, but the main romance in book one is between her and the prince.
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In conclusion, I hope you will be vulnerable, you will be human, you will relate to the characters and their struggles and flaws and overcoming, you will be empowered, you will fall in love with the beauty of my art, you will find your own humanity, and you will have faith in celebrating the act of sex on pages and the physical, emotional, and spiritual relationships that challenge our presumptions, test our boundaries, transform our understanding of intimacy, and welcome us to read and keep reading and perhaps even to re-read! Thank you for reading Bride of the Corpse King on Kindle Vella. Don’t forget to “thumbs up”, “top fave” my book, and especially “follow”!